Wednesday, December 31, 2008

A Year Wiser

I am spending the eve of 2009 with Khalish, who is simply The Person of 2008 in the C&C Universe. The initial plan for the evening was for Khalish and I to relax with Pak Long's family in Kuala Lumpur while Kamal joined my cousin's husband for a photography session. I asked my cousin for a rain check though because Khalish seemed to need a good rest after a first-day adventure at the nursery. He only sipped two ounces of expressed breast milk in the morning, and when he could not bear the hunger, four ounces in the afternoon.

The refusal for bottle aside, of which I am optimist would subside soon because Khalish has progressed well compared to a mere two ounces for the whole day the first time he was re-introduced to bottle-feeding, he enjoyed being surrounded by other infants and toddlers there. I saw and heard his laughter when I made another stop at the nursery to leave more diapers. Yes, this day care center is located opposite our place. It might lack certain criteria, facility-wise, that Kamal and I have for a nursery, but practicality factor made it the more appropriate choice. Most importantly, the co-owners and the nannies seem to be knowledgeable about baby care, based on our conversations.

For being named The Person of 2008 in the C&C Universe, Kamal and I got Khalish an Annabel Karmel's Baby and Toddler Food Diary, inspired by a post by Toughcookie. Too bad I could not get my hands on the title I was eyeing as the local distributor, when contacted by MPH, explained that the publication of that particular book has been discontinued for a certain reason. Nonetheless, the book that now sits on my kitchen counter is sufficient for a new mother like me. Browsing through the simple recipes, I felt like feeding Khalish with solid food tomorrow. You should see how he drooled over the adults' food and beverage. A new mother I am, I told myself to wait for January 12, 2009, when he turns six months old. In my want list are these.

About cooking, it is my ultimate wanting that I cook well by December 2009. By well, I mean to be able to prepare a complete Malay meal for a crowd of 20, at least. There. I have this intention to chill out with my chums who love to cook, and here am I thinking about E who has been having fun trying recipes. Oh, she could prepare sushi from scratch. I shall commence my effort with Khalish's food, followed by lunch box project for Kamal and I. At the moment, I am thanking my lucky star because food outlets are aplenty at this part of town we call home.

Oh, The Person of 2008 is already asleep. I have been typing this post with one hand, a skill I believe all mothers nowadays develop, well, single-handedly. Thanks to baby cradling. Excuse me, I would like to plan my solid food ingredients shopping.

Wednesday, December 24, 2008

Mahadzir and Masnizah


Mahadzir and Masnizah
Majlis Pernikahan
December 20, 2008

Tuesday, December 23, 2008

Tenth






Ten years ago, 87 girls bade farewell to Seri Puteri, the school where they shared five years of growing pleasures and pains. On December 13, 2008, a day after the anniversary of their registration day as first formers, they reunited. Wiser, prettier, and of course, louder.

True to the pink and black theme, more than half of the batch thronged the gorgeously decorated Villamay for, to quote the head warden back in the 1994 to 1998 era, "a gala time". There were sumptuous buffet spreads to be savoured, spunky entertainments to be cheered for, numerous prizes to be appreciated, and last but not least, innumerable poses to be flashed at the cameras. Ten years might have passed since that last goodbye, but girls will forever be girls.

Thank you to the party planners who made the tenth year reunion an exquisite do. It reminded everybody there how fun life was in Seri Puteri. Perhaps, that was why each chum I met during the reunion still retained an aspect of that time frame. That exuberance. More photos here, here, herehere, and here.

Monday, December 22, 2008

Mustapha & Kalthom Family Day 2008

A Cosy Family Day
Awana Kijal Golf, Beach, and Spa Resort
December 5 to December 7, 2008


Wednesday, December 03, 2008

Little Note

A note for Kamal if he has to care for Khalish sans me around:

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I am sure you would strap Khalish in his car seat and drive to the nearest helping hand like the close family friends in Petaling Jaya or the cousin in Serdang. That is after you have called my mother or your sister to arrange for a long-term assistance. Good. However, while waiting for help to arrive, please remember the following tips that I gained after taking care of Kalish alone for one and a half months. Read.

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Do not trust Khalish in his rocker, swing, or Bumbo alone, because the last time I left him in the lounge room to tend to the laundered clothes at the backyard this morning, he did number two so much that the excrement found its way out of the diaper and soiled not only his romper, but also the rocker. To make things funnier, I have lost my sense of smell due to flu. There he was, flashing the sweetest smile, begging to be lifted up, and when I did, voila, my top got soiled too.

So, not only did I have to bathe him all over again, I also had to do laundry twice today although it is not a laundry day. Fortunately, we have a dryer now, which resembles a Coach Ergo in my eyes. Then, there was the rocker to clean.

Thus the first sentence in item two. Do not trust Khalish in his rocker, swing, or Bumbo alone. At least, if you are around him while he is seated there, you would be able to lift him up as soon as you hear the number two gush.

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Hold him in your arms longer after each feed for he takes time to venture into deep sleep. He sleeps longer lying on his belly. The position is good to prevent hair loss, too, although it only works for infants.

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Another benefit of holding him longer in your arms after each feed is the reduced possibility of him vomiting. Surely you do not want to do laundry thrice a day, eh. Even with a dryer.

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Keep wet tissue handy. It is the best temporary remedy to soiled items. To think about everything again, you might need a handbag that could fit in his stuff and your gadgets.

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Sing or chant melodic zikr to him whenever he is on the verge of crying after a bath. As much as he loves being massaged with lotion, he also expects to be fed immediately after being bathed, hence the crocodile tears. He likes nursery rhymes, be them in English, Malay, or French, whenever he was with me. However, I noticed that he preferred national anthems when he was being soothed by you. Heh.

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I think you have learned the following tip the hard way one morning. I would love to remind you again though that little accident like pee spray could be avoided. Could. If his penis appeared hard the moment you take off the diaper, quickly put the diaper back, wait for a while, which may require the singing or zikr chanting part, take the diaper off again, and make sure his penis was soft. Another solution is to buy wee cap from tinytapir.com.

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Air conditioning that is too chilled, which is normal at public places like shopping complexes and airports, could trigger eczema to his exposed skin. Particularly at the face, the back of his ears, and the scalp. Therefore, apply extra moisturiser at those areas before going into such places and apply more if you notice drying skin. Cover him up as much as you could as well. Elomet is to be applied once chili-red spots appear.

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Minyak telon is more friendly to his skin compared to minyak Yu Yee Cap Limau. I simply follow the elderly's advice, which is to rub minyak telon on his stomach and soles to prevent colic. Somehow, the advice works magic on Khalish.

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You have bathed him in his tub once because we were running short of time for a function and yet, I was not done with ironing. I hope my instructions then would ring in your mind if you have to bathe him all alone one day. I think you should also practise bathing him during an outing where there is no tub. Nonetheless, my fervent hope is for you not to bathe him directly under the shower with you when he is still a baby. If that is the last resort though, please cover his ears.

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Extend your reading materials to those about infant for more tips. His needs, his progress, and his potentials. I have bookmarked my favourite sites on parenting, but half of them are eye candies. Hey, those might fall under 'infant's needs', ya.
No, I am not hiding any mysterious illness. My extended maternity leave will end on December 31, 2008. Greetings to weekend work commitments. As for Kamal, act number one is the best solution to my absence, you would think. Nevertheless, you should give yourself a pat on the shoulder for being a great daddy to Khalish. You might have been busy with work, but, you have also been:

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respecting my need to get good rest at night, as I can't afford to sleep during the day because of house work, by changing Khalish's diaper before his feeding session.

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preparing Khalish's bathing essentials in the morning so that I could do the laundry, prepare breakfast, sweep the floor, or simply surf the Internet.

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cleaning his bathtub after I have bathed him every morning, allowing me to nurse him as soon as he is dressed up.

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giving me, when you are not tied to work, a nice neck, shoulder, and back massage while I nurse Khalish.

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taking my place in the kitchen, preparing protein drinks, whenever Khalish becomes more demanding.

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pampering me with outings during the weekends.

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documenting our life together by taking beautiful photos of us and places we went to, as well as guiding me to snap equally good photos with your knowledge. (Note: amateurs at work.)

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being the calm parent when I was fatigued from entertaining Khalish's demands, particularly during growth spurt or time of sickness, the whole day, alone.

I remember that midnight when I cried after Khalish woke up at half an hour interval for yet another feed which could last for two hours. You hugged me before cradling a crying Khalish and your calmness managed to soothe both frustrated mother and child. Yet, you were drained from countless meetings, endless assignments, and the long drive to Rembau, where I spent my confinement period.

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all in all, not only a great daddy to Khalish, but also a superb husband to me.

Therefore, considering your latent enthusiasm, yes, you can take care of baby Khalish alone with a little more practice. :). Both Khalish and I love you.